When Fixing a Cup of Water is an Act of Love

Bill’s cup of water for work 🙂

Fix his water.

I read Scripture and took notes on how to walk in love for over a week and prayed for God to show me practical ways to love the people around me. But, I almost missed it when He told me something to do.

In the stillness of a recent morning, I sat at the dining room table surrounded by my Bibles, journal, and note pads having some quiet time, study time, and writing time before Bill went to work and the kids woke up and started their day.

Fix his water before he goes to the kitchen.

I smiled when I caught on. God answered my prayers.

But, I kept writing a little longer.

I thought, I hear you, God. Thank you for answering my prayer. I’ll do that in just a minute.

And I kept putting pen to paper.

Stop writing and go fix his water.

🙂

So, I fixed my husband a cup of ice water to take to work and had it ready when he came out of our bedroom.

On weekday mornings around 6:30, I stand in the kitchen and talk with Bill while he is getting his lunch ready for work. Recently, he started asking me to fix a cup of water for him as he made his sandwich.

The first time he asked me to help him – in the spring once the kids and I were home under quarantine and weren’t up getting ready for school and work – my first thought was, Nobody helps me get my stuff ready before I go to work. In fact, I do a lot of stuff the night before so I’m prepared and can get everything together quickly in the morning…

But, I don’t want to think thoughts like that. I want to be a respectful wife and help my husband when he needs me.

After all, I prayed for God to reveal to me practical ways to show love to others. Study of scripture showed me over and over that God expects believers to consider others’ needs and interests above our own.

And that’s what God told me to do: stop writing, something I like to do and am typically doing this same time every morning, and fix Bill’s water, something I knew would be helpful to him.

In next week’s blog post, I’ll share some of the scripture I found that explained exactly what Christian’s were to do to walk in love.

I’m Sorry

I’m sorry if you’ve been hurt by people and now you’re mad at the church or at God.

I’m sorry that someone who said she was a Christian was unkind to you because of what you wore to church or because you smoked or had tattoos or because of your past or who your parents were or who you married.

I’m sorry.

I’m sorry that a Christian did something to you and now you don’t like Christians.

Unfortunately, we’re just flawed people trying to share the perfect message of God’s Good News.  Trying to pass it on to others like He told us to. We’re gonna screw up. It’s gonna go wrong and get messy.

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But the other morning while I was studying Matthew Chapter 9, God gave me a message. First it was for me, and then I had to share it with you!

God desires compassion more than ritual (Matthew 9:13).

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This is how He wants His people to treat others.

But it goes both ways, in a sense.  Our ability to show compassion grows from a strong relationship with Him because God is compassionate.  We don’t know how to love others unless we have learned to love Him. We won’t know how to love Him unless we’ve built a relationship with Him in prayer and in reading His Word.

God wants a relationship with us rather than for us to be religious.  God wants us to have relationships with other people rather than being religious in front of them.  The latter will definitely drive them away from us and will probably drive them away from God. The former should draw them to us and, in turn, to God.

I imagine that’s what happened to you, and I’m sorry that you experienced someone who was more about religion than a relationship.

The MacArthur Study Bible commentary on Matthew 9:13 explains that religious people focus on “the outward, ritual, and ceremonial aspects of God’s law” but ignore the parts that were meant to show us how to live the way God would have us to live and the parts of the law that focus on our hearts.  When we focus on the ritual and ignore relationships, we become “harsh, judgemental, and self-righteously scornful of others.”

Does that remind you of an experience you’ve had with someone else?

Does it remind you of you?

When I read this commentary, I cried.  I knew this was me. God let me see how I am perceived through someone else’s eyes when I forget the compassion of God and only focus on the commands of God.

It is a blessing for our compassionate God to let us see ourselves through the eyes of others – even, or maybe especially, if what we see isn’t pretty.

So, I’m sorry if you’ve been hurt by people and now you’re mad at God.

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But, consider this: people screw up, even if they had good intentions at the beginning. Rather than turn your back on God because of the way someone represented Him to you, why not go find out about Him for yourself?

Talk to Him.

Ask Him to show you the truth about Himself and how He wants you to live.

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Read about Him in the Bible – start in the Gospels.  I’m reading Matthew right now, and like I said, 9:13 is what inspired this post.

Ask Him to send a Christian into your life who isn’t religious – someone who truly knows Him and is living for Him.

He’ll hear you.  He’ll answer you, and it’ll be beyond anything you could have imagined.